How is it possible to have a relationship with yourself?

Having an amazing relationship with yourself is like being your own best friend, and knowing that you are in a strong and committed partnership for life — no matter what.

“That’s a cute analogy, but how can you be best friends with yourself?” asks the self-love skeptic. “It’s not a real relationship because you’re still just one person.”

No. There’s actually two of me.

We inhabit one body but can split into “two” people at will.

And so can you.

(Stay with me here).

What makes humans different from all the other animals is our high level of self-awareness.

We don’t just have the ability to recognize ourselves in the mirror, but we’re able to observe and understand our inner world — our own thought process, motivations, desires, and emotions.

We’re able to communicate with ourselves. We can ask ourselves questions and get answers that shed light on who we truly are and what we really want.

We know that we can be our own worst enemy by making self-destructive choices and treating ourselves poorly.

And we can be our biggest cheerleader and best friend when prioritize doing what we know is best for us, and being in an upbeat, supportive mindset.

This is significant because it means we’re able to actually have a relationship with ourselves.

And it IS a real relationship because there’s TWO involved:

1). There’s You: You just minding your own business, going about your life.

2). And there’s Yourself: The part of you that observes, communicates, and interacts with You.

And you’re constantly communicating and interacting with yourself, whether you’re aware of it or not.

Your ability to be “two” in one body is proof that you have an evolved human brain with the capacity to reflect, have new perspectives, and grow.

Which means no matter what, you’ll always have a relationship with yourself.

The question is, what kind of relationship is it?

Are you your own worst enemy most of the time? Are you perpetuating the kind of relationship dynamic you had with your parents? Are you abandoning yourself?

Or are you growing closer to yourself each year, becoming more of the kind of person you most need in your life, getting to know and work with yourself in a deeply connected way?

There’s You and Yourself…together, for life.

So you can either have a strained, abusive, unhealthy relationship with the one person you’re with 24/7…

...or you can choose to stop fighting and hating on this person, and become best friends so you can tackle life together instead of seeing each other as a burden.