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It’d be painful to imagine him having an affair. But it won’t be the scariest thing to ever happen. You won’t be oblivious…but you won’t be constantly worrying about it or looking for it. You’ll be busy doing things that make your own life richer, more meaningful, and alive. You’ll be focused on things that you’d enjoy doing whether or not he was still in the picture. You’ll be fostering your own separate healthy identity.

Needy love: It’s 2016. I’m on vacation in Hawaii with my boyfriend. It’s 5pm and I’m waiting him to come back from his walk. I want to focus on the writing I wanted to get done today, but I’m distracted by how long he’s been gone. He left at around… 3:30? He said he was walking to the beach. Why is he taking so long? What could he be doing? He probably met some cute girl and is walking on the beach, talking to her, wishing he didn’t have me — his boring girlfriend — waiting b

You may think that self-love doesn't matter in your relationship, but the truth is that how you secretly feel inside greatly affects the quality of love and connection you're able to have with others.