Are you a self-love skeptic?

How does the idea of loving yourself feel to you?

Does it feel unnatural, weird, forced, or even gross?

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Do you believe that others are able to feel self-love because they look a certain way, have a better personality, or achieved more things in life…but you can’t, because you’re just too flawed?

Do you like a lot of things about yourself (you don’t hate yourself), so you believe that your lack of self-love isn’t a real problem?

Do you intellectually understand the idea of self-love and see it as a good thing…but deep inside you fear that it’ll turn you into a narcissist, make you aloof and uncaring, or selfish?

Do you think that self-love only comes when enough people are happy with you, or you achieve everlasting love with someone else?

Do you believe that self-love is a nice thing to have, but it’s really not as important as how everyone else feels about you?

Do you worry that if you loved yourself, you’d no longer seek to improve yourself and that you’d delusionally be happy with a subpar life?

Do you think that self-love is supposed to feel like sexual or romantic confidence, where you look in the mirror and think you're the hottest person alive?

Do you see self-love as fitting a certain aesthetic, such as wearing flowy white clothes on a beach, buying yourself flowers and fancy things, or looking perfect all the time?

Do you see self-love as a fluffy, indulgent, soft, and touchy-feely existence where you're so full of compassion and forgiveness that you never get anything done or make big progress?

Do you fear that you’re too messed up from your childhood or your past experiences, and that if you don’t have self-love by now, you’re simply not meant to have it?

Does self-love make you think of the worst person you know -- who is arrogant, hurtful, and blames other for their bad behavior, but claims it's out of "self-love"? (Spoiler: That is NOT self-love.)

Do you see self-love as a means to get someone else to love you more, or to achieve more, rather than as something to have and enjoy within yourself?

Do you want to want self-love…but you simply can’t picture what it’d be like, or how it’d actually improve your entire life?

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If so, you’re in the right place.

I once believed all these things.

The idea of loving myself made me cringe inside.

And I tried all the self-love stuff: The positive affirmations, self-care, yoga, meditating, buying myself nice things, journaling, spending time alone, reading self-help, doing sexy dance classes…

Nothing actually changed the way I felt about myself.

And this made me feel even more inadequate and judgmental towards myself.

But this wasn’t my fault…and it’s not your fault either.

Because no one ever formally teaches us what it is to have a good relationship with ourselves, and what it means to love ourselves.

We were just taught to seek love and praise by doing all the right things, following all the rules, and idealizing romance as the ultimate love-achievement.

And then when we're struggling with self-doubt, codependency, people-pleasing, insecurity, and relationship problems…. guess what everyone tells us to do:

“Just love yourself!”

It’s infuriating.

Being told that the answer is simply self-care, solo-dates, and smiling at yourself in the mirror…. is like going to the emergency room for a broken neck and receiving a Hello Kitty band-aid.

So I want to tell you that it’s super understandable to be a self-love skeptic. It makes sense.

But once you actually understand what it is to have a good relationship with yourself…and what it actually means to love yourself… you’ll no longer be a skeptic.

Instead, you’ll be on the path towards becoming the person you truly want to be.

I’m so happy you’ve found me. Keep reading to learn everything you need to know in order to start shifting from self-love skeptic, to having an AMAZING relationship with the most important person in your life — you.

It is 100% possible.

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