You're not crazy... you lack self-love in your relationship

With boyfriend #1, I was so nice & agreeable that he left me because I was "boring" (his words).

With boyfriend #2, I made sure I found someone before he could replace me.

With boyfriend #3, I was angry, jealous, and controlling.

With boyfriend #4, I knew he was a red-flag rebound but I couldn’t bear to be alone.

With boyfriend #5, I was so attached that I stayed while he was cheating/being abusive.

With boyfriend #6, I was finally in a healthy relationship but was constantly waiting for something bad to happen — and I almost ruined it.

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I used to think that it was weird how I’d be overly nice in one relationship, then overly controlling in another, then avoidant with another, then super attached…..

But I realized that these all stemmed from me being in survival mode — always on high alert, trying to do something to protect myself.

It didn’t matter who I was with… an unhealthy dynamic would always surface because I didn’t have my own love & belonging (an important human need) with myself.

When I finally stopped asking, “What’s wrong with me??” and began asking, “How can I build a self-love within myself?”

… I discovered that underneath all the survival mechanisms, there was a calm, strong person who was lovingly in control of herself and her life.

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You’re not a bad person. Or crazy. Or needy.

You’re just in survival mode.

When you learn how to focus on & love yourself, you’ll finally be able to relax and operate from a place of wholeness and inner control.

Self-love isn’t something you DO, or convince yourself to FEEL.

It’s an IDENTITY that you step into.

I help self-love skeptics find their own identity, so they can become their most secure, loving selves.

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