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I help good-hearted people build strong inner validation.
Not delusional arrogance.
Not emotional disconnect.
Not "I don't need nobody".
But the freedom to enjoy life and pursue what you most want -- without being so affected by others.
(Yes, including that one person).
I don't help you to stop caring.
I help you to stop relying.
Hi! I'm Tracy.
I've spent most of my life trying to care less about what others think.
I created an "I don't care!" cool persona, and took pride in not following the crowd.
But underneath it all, I still cared. A LOT.
And I relied on boyfriends, alcohol, and people-pleasing to make me feel better.
But when it wasn't working, I'd fall apart.
In trying not to care, I became emotionally out-of-control.
I realized that caring wasn't the real problem.
The real problem was that I didn't know who I'd be if I wasn't relying on external validation.
My self-identity was built around earning love and approval.
I didn't know how to stop relying on it, because it's all I'd known.
The reason why you feel so affected by what others think, is because you've learned to rely on approval to give you a sense of identity.
Once you learn how to build an identity around your own love and approval, it'll no longer matter so much what others think.
You'll still care.
But it'll no longer control your life and create so much emotional turmoil.
You'll be able to experience inner confidence, peace, and fulfillment.
You'll finally be free to become who you truly want to be.
If you check 2 or more boxes, you're in the right place.
Your self-identity is the foundation for everything else.
When you work on your identity, it improves your emotions, relationships, habits, and entire life.
You're NOT going to hear me say:
“Just tell yourself that you’re a badass!”
“Just focus on the things you do like about yourself!”
“Just stand up straighter — you’ll feel confident!”
These can be helpful reminders for folks who have a healthy self-identity.
But if they feel like putting a cute dismissive band-aid on a gaping wound... you're in a the right place.
I help you heal the wound at the source -- at your identity.
Being internally validated doesn't come from more time alone, more hobbies, or positive affirmations.
It's an identity you create.
It's a deep self-knowing that roots you into your unshakable truth.
And once you have it, it's yours for life.
